DON'T BE MARRIED TO YOUR COMFORT ZONE

                    

     Don't Be Married To Your Comfort Zone

Sometimes, we get so used to living in the little "bubble" of our lives, that we are convinced that doing so makes us happy. The number one question we need to ask ourselves though, is are we happy...or just comfortable?

It's easy to fall in line with what's easy. It's easier to blend in than to work on our confidence and individuality and stand out. It's easier to stay than to leave the friendship we've worked on for ten years. It's easier to say "I love you" back than to say "I'm not ready." It's easier to say "yes" and not "no." 

But is doing what's easier, actually making your life that much easier? If you find yourself dreaming of a different life, or constantly promising yourself "someday" or "maybe next time," then it's time to face the writing on the wall--you're not actually 100% happy with your choices. I'm actually willing to bet you're not even 50% happy with them. 

What we fail to realize, is that unless we are actively working on leaving our comfort zones, or are pushed out of them by the forces of life, we become very comfortable and convinced that the state of life that we're in is the only state we will ever be comfortable in. But the truth is that every time we leave our bubble for a bigger bubble, we eventually become so used to that bigger bubble that we forget we ever lived in a smaller one--in fact, every time we think back, we can't believe we lived in it at all.

Think of it like this: the first house you ever bought was one-bedroom, one story and tiny. And while it may have been small and sometimes cramped, it was home. You loved it and it kept you safe and it was really cute and put a smile on your face. Then one day, you want someone to move in.

The days pass in your sweet little house, and eventually, you start to feel like you're forcing your closet to shut close. And your quaint kitchen actually can't handle the extra food you need to buy now that you have two people eating from it. So what do you decide to do in this situation? Do you convince yourself that living in your small house is serving you the same purpose it did before? Or do you decide to save up, work hard, and improve your living situation by moving into a bigger house that better suits your needs and your future growth?

That's the decision you need to make with your comfort zone.

The idea of leaving the small home that made you so happy for so long may be sad and scary and intimidating...and often you may even wonder if you truly have the energy for it. But once you move into that bigger house, you'll never look back. All of a sudden, you won't be able to imagine how you ever put up with walking over your couch and other obstacles to get to the other side of the room, or why you ever felt content with not being able to host dinner parties with your closest friends? (Maybe deep down you even let this small living space, in some way. keep you from making many friends at all?) Do you think that you'll truly miss your old home once you're settled into your new one? Do you think that no matter how many times the toilet floods or the floor creaks, that you'll regret moving out of a living space that no longer served you? 

I didn't think so.

Don't be married to your comfort zone. It doesn't love you unconditionally and it won't always be there for you when your mind changes and you want to grow as a person. In fact, it won't even want you to grow. It will convince you that your new co-worker isn't worth becoming friends with and that transferring from the high school that is making you miserable isn't worth it. What kind of marriage is that? 

Your comfort zone should always be disposable because you should always be your top priority. 

Love yourself the way you want to love your life. Unconditionally and with unwavering support. 

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